Why are so many dynamic women lacking confidence in themselves and their abilities? What is this phenomenum and how can we all start saying YES to our true selves, in body, mind and soul? How can we be willing to be all that we are with CONFIDENCE in our relationships and within our “self”?
Each and every one of us contains a vibrant spark of humanity, a spark of individual greatness that no other person can duplicate. It is our purpose in life to discover this spark and use it for the good of ourselves and others.
Confidence is the “knowing”. The deep knowing from within that you have tremendous worth. This knowing allows you to open up to all your possibilities, to be fully who you are and to allow yourself to embrace your significance. As a life coach I view the lack of confidence issue as the number one roadblock that throws women off their sacred path in life. Without confidence one can not contribute one’s full potential to the world.
So what is self confidence? Self confidence begins with believing in yourself. The knowing of who you are and loving every bit of you….the good and the shadows. Acceptance of self is vital and this includes knowing you can change the parts that don’t serve you. It’s a belief in your abilities and capability. A certainty that you are special. Not from an egotistical place, but from a kind inner grounded place. I call it “relaxed confidence”. It comes from the place where you are happy with yourself and able to be open to constructive criticism while holding on to your full being.
Building this inner certainty and knowing takes time and practice. We are made up of body, psyche and soul. Being happy and confident with your whole being is a journey. As social beings we are constantly comparing ourselves with others. “Do I fit in with the group?” “Does she/he like me?” “ Am I fat/thin/ugly/beautiful?!”
Basically, the overview is, AM I GOOD ENOUGH?
Good enough for what, I ask! Here is where we go back to the SPARK and the knowing that there are no duplicates and only original beauties!
REFLECT FOR A MINUTE: Fill in the blank below 10 times. (ie. I AM…happy, successful, etc…)
I AM ___________________.
Are the majority of your answers filled with future possibility or is it time to maneuver your thoughts towards a more positive outcome?
Believing in your power, your good qualities and your trust in yourself to do good takes time but is possible for each and everyone of us.
Here are some tips to successfully build this inner certainty:
- FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT
- MAKE A LIST OF YOUR TOP 7 STRENGTHS
- REMIND YOURSELF
- FOCUS ON YOUR THOUGHTS
- MAKE THE CHOICE
- FOCUS ON YOUR STRENGTHS
The body speaks loud and clear. Walk with strength, stand strong and make eye contact. Smiling is a beautiful added touch! The body will send the message to the psyche that “we are doing great!”
Put this list in eye’s view and read it daily. Sounds strange but the list will grow on you and you’ll start identifying with your strong place within.
Buy yourself a mug that says “I LOVE YOU” or a cozy t-shirt with a loving saying. Give the love to yourself, just as you do for others. Surround yourself with positive pieces of gratitude towards YOU! This physical expression of love to yourself will help nurture your new, growing confidence.
Every once and awhile check in with your mind. Are you thinking FEEL GOOD thoughts or negative ones? Be gentle with yourself. Gently switch your thought-process to forward moving and happier ideas. Relaxed Confidence lives where there is good flowing energy.
Decide you want to learn to love yourself more.
Decide you want to discover your strengths and help yourself grow.
This WILLINGNESS is a big piece towards your success.
As Wayne Dyer said, “I am already in my mind where I intend to be.” Use the power of your mind and your WILLpower to choose to be confident.
What have you done this far in your life that truly feels natural and beneficial for you? What can you contribute now that feels natural and good for you?
Relaxed Confidence is a wonderful vehicle for a peaceful and joyful life. Having the courage to stand in your power and say “YES” to who you truly are by embracing your significance simply benefits everyone. One step at a time you can move towards your highest self and make this world a better place!
Be willing to say Yes to yourself.
